Should you go to bed angry?
Let's bust a big fat myth today…
I’m sure you’ve heard that the best way to have a great marriage is to never go to bed angry.
It’s concerning to me that couples will literally stay up all night going around and around with the same argument because they are trying to stick to this rule.
I dunno about you but that sounds like a one-way ticket to complete exhaustion and a week of trying to make up for lost sleep.
This rule is damaging because it doesn’t take into account the amount of damage that can be done by continuing to fight when you’re dysregulated. It doesn’t take into account the quality of communication that you’re having. You could be yelling, throwing things, name calling, and giving the silent treatment.
When couples start working with us not only do they learn how to regulate their emotions, but they understand their body’s warning signals that tell them when they are starting to become dysregulated.
They learn how to call time-outs and how to respect one another’s requests to stop. They learn how to return to the conversation when they are feeling more in control of their emotions.
Our couples learn how to have conflict and still feel connected and loving.
They don’t turn into enemies and they actually come to agreements about the things they are fighting about.
There’s no more pushing things under the rug, walking on eggshells, or silent treatment.
If you want to stop having marathon fights and learn how to improve your communication…
Click HERE and book your free 15-minute phone consultation. We’ll get you started with a couples expert and help you stop the marathon fights that go nowhere.
