Questions to ask a Marriage Counselor in Rancho Cucamonga
Finding a marriage counselor in any city is hard! Living in Rancho Cucamonga you are thankfully in a nicely populated area that gives you a few choices when it comes to marriage counseling. So let’s say you’ve done the legwork - searched google, yelp, and maybe asked around to a couple of friends and you’ve gotten a list of marriage counselors that seem nice enough. They will likely offer a free phone consultation, but what should you say and ask when you get on the phone?
Questions to ask a marriage counselor in Rancho Cucamonga
I know how hard it is to find a great therapist! You might be wondering how I know that - if you think your therapist doesn't have a therapist, then you’re mistaken! Most great therapists have their own therapist. It’s really important that we continue to do our own work and have a place to process so we can best show up for our own clients. But it took me months to find a therapist so I know how dang hard it can be!
It can also be hard to come to the realization that you need to hire someone to help you with your marriage, but a great marriage counselor is worth their weight in gold! It makes a huge difference in the results you will get when you hire the right marriage counselor, so let's talk about the right questions you need to ask:
What is your specialization?
If you are looking for help with your marriage, the first thing you’ll want to make sure is that the therapists you are consulting with are actually trained marriage counselors. If you were having a problem with your foot, you’d see a podiatrist, and if you needed a cavity filled you’d see a dentist. This is the same principle here - you are going to want to find the right professional for the job. Marriage troubles require a specially trained marriage counselor - not a therapist who tolerates working with couples from time to time.
What type of marriage counseling do you do?
There are a couple different modalities of marriage counseling and you will want to ask about the marriage counselor’s way of working so that you have an idea of what to expect. Some of the most common and effective modalities are Gottman Therapy and Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy (EFT).
Do you take insurance?
Insurance is the least important factor for me when I think about finding the right person for the job. That’s because marriage is one of the most important relationships in your life, and if you are on the brink of losing it, or if it just isn't as fulfilling as you’d like, that causes so much pain and heartache and finding a highly trained specialist is going to help work through that pain much quicker than a marriage counselor who is just trying to figure things out week by week.
I do also understand that it can be costly and if you aren’t able to pay out of pocket and must use your insurance to cover sessions, make sure you ask the marriage counselor what insurance panels they are on and what the copay is. You also will want to call your insurance company and make sure that marriage counseling is covered - sometimes they only cover individual or family counseling, depending on your plan, but you will want to know upfront so there are no financial surprises.
What is the process like for new couples?
Some marriage counselors have an intake session the first session, some have more. Some marriage counselors like us at Rancho Counseling have a very structured, 4-step process for all new couples that includes couples and individual sessions as well as an extensive background questionnaire to get a full picture of what’s happening with each couple we work with right at the beginning so we can help them reach their goals in a timely manner.
These are the most important questions that I think of when my friends are looking for marriage counselors in Rancho Cucamonga and I am offering my advice. I hope this helps you find the right marriage counselor!
If you are still feeling stuck, feel free to call us at (909) 600-0306 for a free 15 minute phone consultation. We would be happy to hear about what is happening and help direct you to the right person. If you are looking for help with marriage counseling, you can read more about how Rancho Counseling can help here.
